Each month this year, I am refining my life by challenging myself to do something or don't do something for 30 days. January was no coffee or caffeine for 30 days. It was a HUGE success. February was a healthy, whole-food diet for 30 days. That was an epic fail. Vacation + unemployment emotional eating proved to be a huge challenge. This month though, I was pulling for another win with 30 days of no social media.
1 // I didn't miss it. At all.
I literally deleted it on February 29th at 10:00 PM...and didn't think about it at all during the month. It was strangely comforting being able to just forget about my phone, checking in, seeing what other people were doing and documenting everything. It was super relaxing to be able to just leave my phone in my purse and be more present, instead of trying to Instastory things or scrolling through Twitter.
2 // I spent was less time overall in front of a screen.
I found myself rarely on my phone unless I was calling or texting someone. Other than that, I found myself reading a lot more, getting outside more, making plans with friends, spending time with people, working out, cooking, listening to music, cleaning and generally doing things that give me life. It was really fantastic.
3 // I enjoyed face to face conversations way more.
I really appreciated when people texted or called to check in and see how my new job was going. I knew that those were the people that were the kind of people who care about me and actually want to know about how I am. It truly blessed me to have people reach out to me without social media to remind them (though I am totally guilty and rely on social media way too much to remind me about what is happening in other people's lives...I want to work on that more after this experiment!) It also made me want to make intentional plans with people more because I wasn't constantly seeing what people were doing, so I wanted to hang out and actually hear about their lives.
4 // It reduced my anxiety.
For several reasons, it made me a much calmer, more relaxed person. I think we all reach for Instagram or Facebook in a moment of boredom, awkwardness or just reflexes. It was nice to allow myself room to just feel bored, awkward or whatever else I was feeling, instead of running to digital distractions to numb the feelings. It was also nice to not constantly be seeing what everyone else is doing. I know that some people talk about comparison on social media like they've never experienced it before or it isn't an issue for them. If that's the case, I truly admire you because I really struggle with comparison when it comes to social media. Social media is just a highlight reel of everyone else's life and it can make it really easy to compare their highlight reel to my sink of dirty dishes, wearing the same pants three days in a row, fighting with my husband, feeling lonely and bored reality that I sometimes sit in.
5 // I felt more empowered to be myself.
Taking a step back from social media and blogging has made me realize how much I (unknowingly) do things because everyone else does them, or because of how I think it will make me look to other people. It's not the most flattering thing to admit, but I want to be brutally honest about this process. It made me realize that I should just post and blog about what I want to, not something I think brands or other influencers will like. Through college, I used this space as a place to make money, quite honestly, because, well...I was a poor college student. But now that I have a job, I want to use this space and my social media to be myself, encourage other people and post whatever I want...instead of trying to curate this perfect feed and look that I think brands will like.
Do you think you could survive 30 days without social media?