A Word for 2018 //

Each year, I, like so many others, choose a word or phrase to define my year. In 2015, it was BRAVE. In 2016, it was FOCUSED. In 2017, it was REFINE. 

This year, my word is COMMUNITY.  

Word of 2018

As 2016 ended, I felt like I had hit a rock bottom of sorts. My marriage was tense, my finances out of whack, my personal health out of control. I was sick of being sick, sick of being poor, sick of being without a direct and sick of fighting with my husband. 

So 2017 saw some pretty big changes. We went to financial classes. We went to marriage counseling. We joined the gym. We cleaned up our food. We got back to church and praying. We were refined, in every sense. We are different, healthier, happier people. 

But one thing you can't do when you're focusing so intensely on your personal growth is pour into others. You can't worry so much about the health and happiness of others when you're prioritizing your own.

So I want 2018 to be the year of others. The year that I shed my social anxiety and I stop leaning so heavily on my introversion and I start seeking others. 

May 2018 be the year of showing up, with bells on. Showing up, on time. Showing up, often. Showing up, whether I'm anxious or not.

May 2018 be the year of stepping out of my comfort zone and stop waiting for everyone to show up on my doorstep. 

May 2018 be the year that I meet others where they are, where I take the risk to be vulnerable and share where I'm at with people. Where I share the hard stuff before I have a resolution. Where I open my home before I've vacuumed or done the dishes. 

May 2018 be the year where I make the less fortunate feel like they are just as worthy as community as everyone else.

May 2018 be filled with spiritual health, time at church, stepping up to serve when asked, reading my Bible, praying for the people in my life, realizing its never wise to neglect the health of your spirit. 

May 2018 be filled with physical health, time at the gym and outside, races to run, weights to lift, less fast food and more veggies, a focus on physical strength instead of the size of my jeans. 

May 2018 be filled with financial health, sticking closer to the budget, managing the money we've been blessed with more wisely, giving more to others who need it, and defying all the statistics as I try to pay off all my student loans in the next two years. 

May 2018 be filled with relational health, weekly date nights, less holding our phones and more holding hands, checking in weekly, going to counseling because there's nothing shameful about it, and taking getaways when needed. 

May 2018 be filled with recreational health, more books and black-and-white movies and documentaries, less Keeping Up With The Kardashians, more hiking and races, more yoga, more game nights, more doing things I've never done. 

May 2018 be filled with social health, cheering others one, fighting for one another, keeping in touch with friends who live across city, state and country lines, more text messages checking in, less forgetting to respond, and for the love, less damn comparison and more celebration in our own unique creativity and beauty. 


Here's to a happy, healthy 2018!